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I agree with everything you said, and: I think there's still opportunity to delve deeper on the concept of ideal life. I think that's harder than it looks. And I think it involves trying new things, and preparing yourself for the eventuality of expending a bunch of effort to go out of your comfort zone and then be disappointed by it. A way to think about it is, "If you enjoy every bite of food you eat, perhaps you aren't trying enough new things." (Or you're Jesse's ex-boyfriend and you don't just follow the damn recipe. It's written down right there!!!!)

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I agree with everything you said, and: I want to emphasize that none of this is "easy." But it is simple. And we know the difference. We know the difference between knowing what we should do versus actually executing. A key insight when wrapping my head around this concept is that I was subconsciously waiting for someone to close The Gap for me. I know that sounds ridiculous, but I think a lot of people fall into this unknowing trap.

Related to what you're saying is something my friend Michael texted me in response to this post: "I would say that once people see what bridging that gap will cost them that another critical gap is the one between the life they want and the life they think they want."

Woo boy do I have smart friends.

Key takeaways: no one is going to do any of this for you except you, just start, make the moves tiny, and give yourself enough spacetime to see how you're feeling and adjust constantly.

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